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3 Critical Signs it’s Time to Re-evaluate a Toxic Friendship

    When we think of toxic relationships, we tend to think of dysfunctional family members or toxic romantic relationship. However, toxicity can run rampant in friendships as well. Below are 3 critical signs it may be time to re-evaluate and possibly break off a toxic friendship:   1.      Your friend spends more time tearing you down than building you up.     ·        If you have a friend who is consistently tearing you down instead of being supportive and building you up, it’s probably time to re-evaluate the relationship. For example, when having a conversation with your friend you feel misunderstood, attacked, or demeaned - you have a toxic relationship. If you feel consistently your feelings or actions are judged or dismissed, it’s time to rethink the relationship. If this is something that occurs regularly, it may be time to take a break to reflect on the future of your friendship.     1.      You have different life values   ·        While most the time it is ok to have differen
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Role Reversal

 Role reversal 


I came to the conclusion that I was parentified as a child. My mother put me into the adult role far too young, and I became her “mini therapist”. I’m sure I was strong willed. I’m sure I was smart. I’m sure I was stubborn. 


It still wasn’t okay. 


In fact it was abusive and traumatizing.


I know this now. I didn’t have the understanding or the label of what happened to me until I became a mother myself. It forced me to face my traumas and wounds. Motherhood will bring it all up if you have chosen to suppress them previously. 


Parentification creates a state of chronic stress and trauma. It affects you for the rest of your life. 


If this has happened to you: know that you are not alone. It has a name. It has a label. But you can work to get past your traumatic childhood. 


Specifically, trauma therapy is something I am looking into to “get past my past”. Sometimes I feel stuck in the past, and it affects the rest of my life. 


I hope to get past it and not bring the wounds from my traumatic childhood into my parenting. 


My children deserve a healed mother. 



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